Ben and I went to a wedding on Saturday. It’s been a long couple of months with the whole Mihiretu-kicking-Kingergarten’s-ass debacle so the twenty-four hours away from the kids, dressed in finery, was a welcome departure.
To celebrate his birthday, Ben took the day off on Friday and rode his bike. For ten hours. That’s his idea of a really good time. He did indeed have a really good time but maybe 42 is the magic number because from Friday night on through the weekend he had tummy troubles and non-stop hiccups. We arrived at the wedding looking good but in full diaphragm spasm.
We’re at a stage where we don’t know a lot of people getting married. The year I turned thirty, forget about it, lots of weddings, but now it’s pretty much dried up. We’re in a slump until the second marriages and weddings of offspring start happening. That said, this particular wedding was a first for both bride and groom. I don’t know them well but what I know I like an awful lot. Clearly in love. No question they have a happy future in front of them. Those are the kind of weddings you want to go to.
The groom is a cyclist (I can’t get away from them) and so, in the ceremony, along with the customary oaths of mutual respect, death ‘til us part, etc, (all completely within this couple’s capabilities) she vowed “I promise to never get in between you and your bike.” I muttered to myself, “Whoa, that’s a big promise. Good luck with that one.”
The event was outside, the couple somehow landing on an eighty degree day at the end of October. After the ceremony, as the crowd nibbled on crackers and brie, I found myself in the lucky position of chatting with the bride. Like I said, I don’t know her well, so this was exciting. In my giddiness, however, in my post-wedding, you’re-meant-for-each-other gush, I managed to gesticulate widely enough to karate-chop her wine glass from her newly bejeweled hand, sending it, and the red wine it held, smashing to the ground at her feet. The crowd gasped, then seeing it was the bride with red wine splashed up her gown, mysteriously applauded. Perhaps they thought it was on purpose? Some sort of vaguely Jewish breaking of glass? I learned later than everyone thought it was her that dropped the wine. Criminally unjust.
I apologized, of course, profusely. The bride was gracious, this woman is so poised it’d take more than red wine on her wedding dress to throw her off her game. I told her that we were either going to be best friends from here forward or she was never going to talk to me again. I fear the latter.
Later, much later, my hiccupping groom and I made our way back to our hotel. At home we have a Tempurpedic mattress and so the hiccups of the previous night hadn’t really affected my sleep. Here, however, we were on a standard mattress, on what turned out to be the equivalent of a bowl of Jello. He’d hiccup, the bed would shake. All night.
It’s kind of marriage in a nutshell, right? You pledge to never get in between him and his bike. You get red wine dumped on your white dress by a giggling acquaintance. You go to bed on a jerking marital mattress. If you’re lucky, that is, if you’re very, very lucky.